In a reality show, Lin Feng hinted that being pua by his previous partner always forced him to accept the other person's wishes, which amplified his inner inferiority and made him unconfident.
His predecessor was Wu Qianyu.
I thought it was just Raymond Lam's dissatisfaction with his predecessor, but after watching the variety show "Love's School Trip", his statement seemed to be verified.
Wu Qianyu is really good at suppressing her partner to improve herself.
For example, he repeatedly attacked Shi Boxiong’s appearance.
Either way, the handsome guy looks like a sad frog at first glance.
Either, he is too short to attract her attention.
belittled Shi Boxiong's appearance to highlight his appearance.
also defined Shi Boxiong's position in her heart.
is like boiled water in a thermos, you can’t even remember it when you don’t need it.
The implication: To me, you are not that important.
is defined in this way, what is the difference between it and the spare tire?
And, expectations for marriage: I don’t have the confidence to love only one person in my life.
In general, Shi Boxiong, a third-generation rich man, has become a "spare tire" that can be discarded at any time in the mouth of female star Wu Qianyu.
belittled and undermined his partner, leaving Shi Boxiong speechless and blushing for a time, and his inferiority complex unknowingly amplified during the relationship.
Although Wu Qianyu has become tough-talking and unwilling to show weakness due to the influence of her native family, her mentality can also be seen through her expressions.
I want to marry into a wealthy family, but I don’t want to be a lowly person and be manipulated by the other person. I want to be respected and valued by the other person, but I don’t have the background, career or capital. Therefore, I can only win over my boyfriend through getting along with each other in daily life. Decrease the value of the other person verbally, and then establish an independent female personality to use public opinion to raise one's own worth, in order to achieve the effect of standing upright and being the daughter-in-law of a wealthy family.
is euphemistically called not knowing how to show weakness, but in fact it is a manifestation of extreme guilt and lack of confidence in the face of unequal strength.
However, this seemingly perfect closed-loop model still seems too immature in front of Shi Boxiong, because his "means" are higher.
Shi Boxiong, who looks like a cute little "little puppy" who is obsessed with Wu Qianyu, does everything to cater to the other party. He even wrote the other party's name in his will and left everything of himself to Wu Qianyu.
In fact, he is not that stupid. He even has the upper hand on Wu Qianyu in terms of speech and behavior.
For example, Wu Qianyu kept saying "financial power" and almost wrote "you support me after marriage" on her face, but Shi Boxiong refused to accept the move and never publicly promised to give him a life of worry-free food and clothing, let alone Will promise to support the other person, but instead control her consumption and change her consumption concept.
It is euphemistically called: manage your own property well, and you will have more wealth and freedom when you are old.
For example, Wu Qianyu asked Shi Boxiong at the beach: Can you live without me?
Shi Boxiong did not answer but lowered his head and pretended to think, while Wu Qianyu quietly observed his reaction. One was thinking about how to answer in a watertight way, and the other was thinking about how much weight he had in the other person's heart.
As a result, Shi Boxiong won.
His delay in answering already gave the answer, and Wu Qianyu also felt that she could only try her best to cover up her disappointment and smooth things over: I can live without you, but I am not happy.
Wu Qianyu seems to have given Shi Boxiong a step up, but in fact he has given himself a step up. Shi Boxiong's retreat to advance has revealed his defensiveness.
For another example, when Wu Qianyu asked: Are you willing to support me when you are sick?
As a result, Shi Boxiong defeated Wu Qianyu again.
still makes no promises or guarantees. By the way, I would like to give Wu Qianyu a high hat: I think you can definitely do it.
Wu Qianyu originally tested him and asked him to make a public commitment in front of the national audience, but he ended up putting him on the hook. In the end, he could only use two fake smiles to cover up his inner discomfort.
Through the interaction and conversation between the two, it is not difficult to find that these two people are very interesting.
Wu Qianyu always digs holes for the other party. One will make the other party promise this, and the other will guarantee that, in order to consolidate his position and show his high-profile attitude to dominate the other party.
Shi Boxiong was like a mirror in his mind, but he couldn't see through it. He made detours in front of each pitfall, and finally caught the opponent off guard.
One is attacking, the other is defending, and they are trying to test each other and secretly playing games with each other, with only one purpose: to win control and not be caught with chips.
In fact, Wu Qianyu's underlying logic is very simple. When everyone watches her step into a wealthy family with her head held high, they are too anxious and lack emotional intelligence.
She never understood that the independent female persona she had created for herself was not necessary for a rich family's daughter-in-law. It was not wise to belittle the other person and raise her own value. It was a sign of guilty conscience to be impatient to get commitment and express herself.
In comparison, Xi Mengyao is much smarter.
She watches people’s emotions and doesn’t talk too much nonsense, has children but doesn’t give up her career, talks sweetly but doesn’t lose herself. Xi Mengyao can withstand the investigation of the fourth concubine Liang Anqi and is finally photographed. She can firmly sit on the throne of "Concubine Xi". Damn it. It is definitely not the character of an independent woman, nor is it a partner tied to her appearance, but a super high emotional intelligence.
Wu Qianyu, who is anxious to get a promise and does not hesitate to dig holes for the opponent, is still a little immature in front of the shrewd rich third generation Shi Boxiong, and the wealthy family's defense is far deeper than she imagined. In the
program, Wu Qianyu's various performances were very embarrassing.
is in love with Shi Boxiong, but shows a very high attitude towards his various pua and unabashed dislike.
wants to enter a wealthy family, but can't let go of her self-esteem. She wants to prove to the outside world that she is not being manipulated by the other party, and she acts like an independent woman.
is very family-oriented at heart, but he pretends to be free and unrestrained, as if he lives for himself.
is obviously very nervous for fear of being compared to himself and not being respected by the people around him, but at the same time, he creates a sense of relaxation.
is so naughty and expressive that she loses her affinity. Just like the various remarks and opinions she expressed on the show, they are all like manuscripts that were prepared in advance and then outputted one by one for everyone to listen to at the right time. This creates the smart, calm, and transparent image you want to establish.
She really wants the audience to see her dating more, she really wants to show that she is independent and chic, and she really wants to create an image of being financially independent. However, this little cleverness is too obvious.
Wu Qianyu looks great, but in fact she is not confident and not smart enough.
is just like Zhang Jiani, who married into a wealthy family back then. She wanted too much to show Maimao's pursuit of her and his kindness to her, but in the end she didn't even have a wedding, and was abandoned by the wealthy family in the end.
On the contrary, Shi Boxiong looks like a boring gourd, but in fact he knows what he is doing and can accurately handle the opponent.
Wu Qianyu advocates a luxurious life, so he is extremely frugal. Even his proposal and engagement are very small, so Wu Qianyu can only follow him.
The more Wu Qianyu showed that he could handle him easily, the more he retreated in order to advance, and Wu Qianyu could only accept it.
Does Shi Boxiong love Wu Qianyu?
The answer is yes, but not unconditionally.
Does Wu Qianyu love Shi Boxiong?
The answer is yes, but only if she maintains her dignity.
looks at the love of wealthy families through their interactions. In addition to love, there are also secret games and competitions.
