Since ancient times, the concept of marriage that is well-matched has had a subtle, profound and lasting impact on our married life. With the development of society, this concept is gradually regarded by young people as cultural dregs. In fact, the formation of this concept embodies the experience summed up after the practice of the predecessors. Contrary to this concept, can couples who combine willfully be happy?
With the development of society and the development of ideas, many young couples, after the sweetness of their love period, rushed to the Civil Affairs Bureau to register their marriage, but the results were unsatisfactory. The relationship between singer Geng Weihua and Zheng Jia was maintained only by Zheng Jia's unilateral letter output. Although it lasted for two years, many necessary parts were still missing, and it finally came to an end. Are those links mixed, or are they really essential.
has suffered so much for his music dream
Geng Weihua has been naughty since he was a child and has no intention of studying. His older brothers and sisters had better grades and were admitted to college. Geng Weihua, who likes to sing, is determined to study at Conservatory of Music , but this career is not favored by his family.
In the end, Geng Weihua was still arranged by his family to work in the factory, but Geng Weihua did not give up his musical dream, quietly studied music, was admitted to the Conservatory of Music, then quit his job and entered Shanghai Conservatory of Music to study music systematically. The family was furious, and the father was even more reluctant to recognize this son. Although
is one step closer to the dream, it is also stumped by the problem of food and clothing. With limited funds in his hand, he often can't eat enough, even starving, and even fainted from starvation. Because of his outstanding professional ability, his teacher liked him very much, so he asked him to eat at home, and he was guaranteed food and clothing from then on.
After he completed his studies, he joined the army and entered the military arts. His singing voice is very contagious and recognized by many comrades in arms. But the good times didn't last long, and after a year of stay, the military art was disbanded. He had nowhere to go again, and once again lived a life of sleeping in the wind. After wandering for more than half a year, I participated in the interview of the local song and dance troupe. Due to sitting upright while waiting, I achieved outstanding results in the interview and was successfully hired. After
joined the song and dance troupe, he began to shine, and soon became a soloist, and a year later he performed in various places. He was a naughty, ignorant child in the eyes of his parents, and finally shined in his field. . In an industry that was not optimistic at the beginning, Geng Weihua made a breakthrough in it and was known by the public.
In 1997, he even stepped on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala, completely got rid of the label of not being a talent, and became the pride of his parents. His career was not going well, and he was also full of ups and downs emotionally. Although he is a shining star in the sky, after being picked off, he still cannot escape the fate of being abandoned because he no longer shines.
two people with different personalities combined with
Geng Weihua for a performance in Xi'an, entered the heart of a little girl, and became the girl's idol and dream lover. The little girl is warm, brave and outstanding, this is Zheng Jia, Geng Weihua's ex-wife. During the performance, Zheng Jia plucked up the courage to ask for Geng Weihua's contact information and home address. Since then, Geng Weihua has been constantly receiving letters from the little girl.
Two years after the little girl sent out a unilateral letter, Geng Weihua realized that the girl had entered his life, so he proposed to the girl, and the two hurriedly entered the marriage hall. Falling in love is very simple. If you have passion and love, you can continue. However, marriage is different. You need to face chicken feathers, firewood, rice, oil and salt, and the appearance of your partner beyond your imagination.
Zheng Jia, a passionate, brave and romantic girl, can really face the fluff and indifference of marriage? Obviously the answer is no. The two hurriedly combined, and there was little running-in understanding. To Zheng Jia, Geng Weihua is a star in the sky, out of reach, and has a beautiful appearance in Zheng Jia's heart.
She thought that after marrying an idol, it would be sweet and romantic, but she was dumbfounded by the differences of opinion in the face of firewood, rice, oil, and salt. Seeing that man who was on top of her brushing the toilet and cooking, the romantic dream she fabricated in her heart was shattered, what happened to that perfect man? Having become so ordinary, she gradually lost confidence in this marriage.
Geng Weihua is different. He only pursues a marriage that is warm, harmonious and long-lasting. The longer the time, the more inseparable from the wife, and even more divorcedYears have not been forgotten. But as time went by, his wife's love for Geng Weihua gradually weakened. The two have completely different personalities, and have two different views on their understanding of marriage and how they look at things.
These questions didn't surface before they got in-depth contact. If they got married after in-depth contact, would there be another answer. The union of their marriage was rushed, immature, without the touch and fusion of thought and living habits. If you understand clearly in advance, and then make a decision on that step, inappropriateness can also reduce harm, and the child will not grow up in a single-parent family.
Age and growth environment gap
Their differences are not only reflected in their emotional outlook, but also in their values.
's growing environment and age also have huge differences. Geng Weihua went out to work hard since he was a child with poor grades, and lived a life of lack of food and wind and rain. Zheng Jia grew up in the palm of her parents' hands, and the two were 14 years apart in age.
can be said to be not the right match, the match can not only describe the family conditions, but also describe their own conditions. This concept may be feudal, and it is not that time now. But the emergence of this concept makes sense, and Geng Weihua's marriage is a living example.
Due to the different values brought by the growth environment and age gap, the two have many differences in their lives. Although Geng Weihua has a good income, he came out of the hard life and knows that money is hard-won. A piece of clothing even cost 8,000 yuan, which was unimaginable for Geng Weihua. Not only that, his wife always buys things, but Geng Weihua thinks it's unnecessary, and it's easy to keep things simple.
There is a generation gap between the three-year-olds, and there are several three-year gaps between the two. Today's new ideas always emphasize that age is not a problem at all, society is developing, the economy is also developing, and thinking should also progress. Age may not be a problem, but the ideological gap hidden under the veil of the age gap will eventually be exposed and affect life.
married the same people and walked the same path
Geng Weihua managed this marriage carefully, cherishing everything he had, keeping himself clean and caring for his wife. It should have been happy, but it came to an end. In general, the two are not the same road after all, and they can't walk the same road. A marriage requires two people with the same concept to operate together and walk together.
How to go together with the same people requires in-depth understanding. After touching ideas, you can make a decision after careful deliberation, not impulsive. A man like Geng Weihua, who is diligent and thrifty at home, loves his family, and has a long flow of water, should spend time with a virtuous and virtuous woman. Only when the two have the same goals can they manage their family well
